The Resilience Diary:
Thinking Through Therapy
There’s this puppy named Kayla. An adorable shepherd mix, with one ear slightly bent and a perfect wet nose. She loves to run, play, smell... she needs to do those things to be happy and healthy.
Unfortunately Kayla is stuck in a 5 ft x 5 ft cage at the pound, and she’s slowly losing her grip.
Your mind is that caged dog.
This COVID psychological thriller has taken so many things from us. Things we love, things we need. How about some perspective:
What’s the worst punishment the U.S. legal system has devised? Solitary confinement.
How long do astronauts train for social isolation in outer space? Three and half years.
Yikes. If we want to keep our sanity we need to throw the kitchen sink at our mental health.
We need to talk out loud, to feel heard, to have perspective on who we are and who we’re becoming.
Therapy works... but why? And is there a way to get more of it?
Let’s look for the one element that makes therapy so damn effective.
Is therapy effective
because of the empathy?
People are now more comfortable opening up to bots and A.I. avatars because they feel less judged.
The digital buddies have also proven to be therapeutic* yet they certainly aren’t empathic.
Let's keep searching...
Is the key to therapy the emotional connection?
An emotional relationship is a 2-way street of sharing & vulnerability.
Therapists are effective but they're specifically trained to NOT share about themselves.
You don’t have an emotional relationship with a therapist.**
So it's the great ideas
you get from therapy, right?
Therapists have excellent ideas but they understand we usually pursue our own ideas.
So they guide you to look inward, discover the idea yourself, and feel the “aha!“ moment.
There’s a word for that process: introspection.
Aha! So the key to therapy is introspection
Therapy leads to observation of oneself and discovery of ideas that create new paths.
Therapists, trusted friends, and bots can all be therapeutic to varying degrees, but only when they inspire introspection.
As you'll see below, you can also take matters into your own hands.